“Most girls in my area think that just being in a confined space with a boy is a sin, but my best friend has had la-paee sex, and I know lots of girls from less strict families who are allowed to hang out with boys, but who are still expected to be virgins, so they all have anal sex instead.” This phenomenon is so ubiquitous in Tehran that anal sex has become the butt – pun intended – of many a Tehrani joke.
Yazidi Iraqi women queue in order to get food at the Bajid Kandala camp near the Tigris River, in Kurdistan's western Dohuk province, where they took refuge after fleeing advances by Islamic State jihadists in Iraq on August 13, 2014.
Even among some of the richer classes that ostensibly live more “western” lives, partying with alcohol and music, the men will happily sleep around but will want to marry someone “pure”.
Virginity is seen as a marker of decency, of good family stock and morals.
But in Tehran, being a virgin does not mean that Tahmineh has not had sex. Of course I want to have proper sex, but until I know for sure that my boyfriend wants to get married, I can’t risk it.” Before Tahmineh graduated to anal sex, she and her friends were having la-paee (literally, “thigh”) sex, where the man uses a woman’s clenched thighs to orgasm.
Tahmineh believes there are rising numbers of girls like her, who are from religious or traditional families but prepared to experiment sexually before marriage.
“One girl can be sold and bought by five or six different men.
Sometimes these fighters sell the girls back to their families for thousands of dollars of ransom.” Bangura said the the terrorist group’s leaders have first pick of the women and children, after which the wealthy outsiders place their bids.
There is no law requiring proof of virginity as a condition of marriage, but custom and practice have an enduring force in Iranian society.Following global condemnation of the incident, the government partially repealed a ban on female spectators in stadiums – but only for events not considered too “masculine”.Like most girls in her neighbourhood in Tehran, Tahmineh is a virgin. For many men, a woman’s virginity is a non-negotiable prerequisite for marriage. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. Sex segregation is the physical, legal, and cultural separation of people according to their biological sex.Although the government tries to enforce draconian Islamic laws to curb relationships between the sexes, many younger people nevertheless go their own way- much to the consternation of senior Shia clerics.