But maybe they were just influenced by what they saw on TV.
Has anyone else noticed all the crap on TV and the message it sends to the young?
For example, Jack Halberstam argues that FTM transgender persons cannot be considered butch since it constitutes a conflation of maleness with butchness.
He further argues that butch–femme is uniquely geared to work in lesbian relationships.
Despite people thinking that a butch/femme couple are simply copying hetro conventions of a guy/girl partnership, nothing is further from the truth.
Butch women don’t want to be men, they just like the more masculine image.
Plus, femme girls don’t want to be with a man, or they would be. Amazingly, many people don’t understand a butch – femme relationship at all and in some cases, they are convinced that the butch girl is a man anyway, despite what they are told.
There is debate about to whom the terms butch and femme can apply, and particularly whether transgender individuals can be identified in this way.
There is nothing better than making a bold statement and when people look and question ‘is it a guy and a girl’ or ‘is that two girls?
’ it gives the straights something to think about and that is a deffo positive.
So, some of us may not know how to react when a woman shows interest. Don’t forget that at the core they are part woman too. Butches have a hard shell from having to fight off scornful stares and protect their hearts from hatred on all sides.
They have a sensitive side that men don’t usually have unless they are gay. We learn not to notice the way people look at us because if we did, our hearts would be perpetually broken.